As parents, we all make mistakes, no parent is perfect. We all need any additional help we can get. Disciplining your children is tricky and we tend to make many mistakes regarding this subject. Here is a quick list that you can use as a reference.
Make disciplining your kids a top priority!
1) Do not tell lies to your children
Children are smarter than what we give them credit for, this is why I can not stress enough not to lie to your kids. If they happen to catch you in a lie they will not trust you and they will loose respect for you. They also could go to the extreme and think that lying is acceptable and they could start thinking that it is acceptable to lie.
2) Don't back down
Do not back down to your kids. If you give them a consequence, stick to it. It will show them that everyone has responsibilities. It is your responsibility to teach them from right and wrong and it is their responsibility to follow the rules.
3) Do not bribe your children!
I can't tell you how many times I have seen parents bribe their children, especially when it comes to behaving. It is great to reward but that is totally different than bribing. Bribing will only teach them to be spoiled.
4) Stick to the rules!
As parents we have the make the rules and set boundaries for our children. It is very important, as parents, to make sure that we also follow our own rules. Do not let your children see you break the rules that you created. We need to lead by example. If we don't follow our own rules how can we expect our children to?
5) Remain Calm!
It is also very important that we don't lose our temper with our children. Remember to stay calm when disciplining. If you lose your temper you can be rest assured that your child will react to your emotions and they as well will lose their temper. Count to ten and take a deep breath, if you have to hide in the bathroom until you have calmed down... DO IT!!
6) Lecturing
When it comes to punishments there is nothing worse than going on and on. Keep it short and simple. If you start lecturing, the kids are not going to hear it and you're just wastingyour breath. All you have to remember is to keep it short and simple.
7) The Dad Threat or Vice Versa
I know it's tempting to tell your kids "just wait until your dad gets home" but you want them to respect you. Threatening them with their dad or mom is just going to let them believe that they can walk all over you when their dad is not home. You need to also start disciplining to ensure that they also respect you.
8) Nurture while disciplining
Disciplining is hard on everyone involved. It's hard on the kids, the parents, and even people watching it. It is very important that you nurture your kids while punishing them. Remind them that you love them but every behavior has a consequence, whether it is good or bad.
9) Forgetting to Teach
Remember the point of discipline; to teach. You're trying to correct bad behavior. Let them know what the correct or acceptable behavior is. Always teach something during every behavioral situation. Kids are learning something, every minute of the day. Make every situation into a teaching moment.
10) Explain Why They Are Being Punished
In order for a punishment to be effective, the children must know why they are being punished. This is the same as teaching while disciplining. Just explain why they are being punished.
11) Don't Overreact
Remember to stay calm and try not to overreact. No matter how bad it seems its more than likely not that bad. The more you overreact the more they are going to react to your overreaction. STAY CALM!!!!
12) Waiting too long!
Another discipline problem that I often see is waiting too long to deliver the punishment. With very young children they need to have an immediate punishment. Kids under six will likely forget what they did to deserve the punishment and it will ultimately mean nothing to them.
Children are not being disciplined anymore! Parent's leave it up to the teachers at school to do the disciplining. it should start at home. It is almost like parent's are scared of their kids. Kids are now taught at school and everywhere else that when their parents discipline them it is child abuse. They threaten their parents that if they are disciplined then they are either calling child protective services or the police, even if they are not be spanked or using corpal punishment. I believe that kids should be spanked, it is now that society believes that kids being spanked teaches them violence. If this would be the case, their would be so many more people that grew up in the 50's, 60's and 70's in prison. It does not teach kids violence but teaches them to be respectful and know and learn the rules of the household and gives them boundaries.
Along with the twelve simple rules, you might ask yourself "what do I do when my child talks back?" Well the answer is simple, first, you must learn to keep your composure. Don't condone your child talking back but be careful as to how you react to it. You need to determine the root cause of the back talk. Talk with your child and determine what is the main cause of the back talk. Explain to your child that it is acceptable to have intense emotions but it is not acceptable to be disrespectful. Whatever you do you MUST carry out any consequences that you give your child.
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